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EP 31: Lessons in Boundary Setting with Lyss

Join us this week as Lyss talks about how she approaches setting boundaries, why she does it, where she has struggled, what this looks like and how she’s reframed it from being selfish or “mean” vs an act of both self care and way to help make herself better for others.

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I’m Exercise Physiologist, sports nutritionist, weight lifter, and ultra runner. I am here to bring science to your training in a no-nonsense way. I have helped thousands of women crush big lifting goals, cross race finish lines, and even do both. I’m here to help you do the same!

This trend…. But make it academia ✨😂💁🏼‍♀️

Got my copy of @muscleandfitnesshers today in the

Got my copy of @muscleandfitnesshers today in the mail with my first ever full spread fitness article magazine publication.

As a young girl who grew up with stacks and stacks of beauty and fitness magazines in her room — this is beyond cool. Especially knowing that I wish I had seen someone like me, with this information, out there when I was growing up.

It’s always very powerful for me to see how many and how fast opportunists have come up the past few years. A slow burn by little by little I can see all the things a younger me as a teen, in college or even my masters/early PhD would have dreamed of being able to do.

When I see these things come to volition I can’t help but think of all those years I felt so much backlash from others for caring so much about sports, fitness, studying or my business. Always being busy and working toward something. Missing out on things. Saying no. Having to deeply believe in what I was working toward when no one saw it, doubted it, or it sounded like another persons “big goal” that fades with time.

It’s not just this single magazine write up, but how wild it is to be in this new chapter of my career and know the earlier pages all too well. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again — younger me is always my greatest inspiration. That girl had grit — and she is why I am where I am now.

Mostly what’s the most powerful for me with all of this is that I decided to grow my page, market my business and peruse academia on my terms. I didn’t force myself into the one size fits all industry model. I knew my message and vision and I stuck to it.

I’ve been on a mission the last 12 years and it’s not slowing down anytime soon my friends! 💪🏻

& as always — thank you all here for your support! ♥️

This picture was hard to come across again. While

This picture was hard to come across again. While going though old photo shoots for an image to use — I found this from a early last fall.

You can see — even through black and white photos — editing— and shading …. How rough I felt on the inside.

A wave of a difficult end to 2020 that turned into early 2021 burnout from a mix of the never ending changes to my pani-phd, growing a business, not knowing my future plans, having to prepare for every outcome — and tangible stress.

All those began to take a massive and negative toll on my internal health in 2020-2021. While I was working nearly 7 days a week, 4-5 am wakeups to rush into lab, updating my business systems & writing my dissertation my body said “enough”.

My stomach skin a disaster due to this, my hair a mix of over colored and depleted. I remember being in Zion with @bethanycorataylor in early 2021 saying “I don’t even feel ugly in the insecure way — I don’t know how to describe it. I don’t feel like myself. Like the life has been pulled out of my skin and face.”

It’s embarrassing to admit how much I let stress deteriorate my health while I was doing “everything else right”. This led me to making larger boundaries in my business, hiring out, redoing our back end systems and just getting out of my PhD with as much play and recover as I could.

Luckily, I had @insidetracker along the way. To let me know what was going on inside me at this time, a guide on how to adjust it, data to share with my doctor, the nudge to get help with my stomach, and a way to track progress over time.

Through testing not guessing and smart supplementation, professional help (hi @dr.adrian.chavez ), a lot of stress management work on my own, outsourcing & time — a year later I feel like a whole new me. My skin is glowing, my hair is growing, I am eating foods again I thought I never would, and my blood work is finding it’s way back to it’s normal.

@insidetracker has been vital to me during this time. Through today ultimate tests are $200 off with 35% off the entire website. Use my code DOCLYSSFITNESS. And yes, you can purchase now to save AND use later.

“Just go back to normal” — means nothing to

“Just go back to normal” — means nothing to those who don’t even have an established “normal” yet at least in the context of health / fitness. What if their normal isn’t somewhere they feel good, or great, or move or fuel themselves how they really want but can’t figure it out.

It’s okay if that’s you.

Change takes time.
The people who’s default normal seems impossible to you didn’t get there in a day.

It takes time — fumbling — falling backward — and ultimately moving forward because of all that to end up where your normal is something you love, crave, or can default to.

But you’re not broken, lazy or bad if these statements feel empty to you.

Being “off routine” even when you have one is hard. Let alone when your routine maybe isn’t one that you love right now.

Ask yourself instead “what are 1-3 things I know will leave me feeling really good next week”. And start there.

Some things to try:
• a big glass of water
• a early + long night sleep
• a big on salad
• a long walk
• some sweat pumping cardio
• a nap
• some solo time
• a coffee shop pause alone (me 🙋🏼‍♀️)
• a solid lift
• a long shower
• restocking grocers
• prepping a few meals
• some time with a good book
• an extra episode of that TV show
• a hike or getting outside in the sun
• a warm cup of tea

Whatever it is that’ll help you feel recovered + healthy + good — not guilty. And build back to a new normal … from there ♥️

Strong women aren’t inherently violent. This is

Strong women aren’t inherently violent. This is a sickening stigma that every woman who has the audacity to exist in this world with muscles and can load up a barbell has to face in commercial gyms.

I haven’t trained in commercial gyms for years. But I grew up facing the comments and side-handed views of middle aged men who have always taken space in these spaces who cannot comprehend the idea that a woman — in his space — is strong … without being violent at worst and at best an anomaly.

This man … before I even started my warm up set today asked me “if he could use the extra set of 45’s” because he “wanted to make sure I wasn’t going to beat him up for it”.

If I didn’t have an injury flare up I would have said yes and squatted 250 in front of his face.

I directly said back to him “You can use the 45’s but actually the idea that women are inherently violent because we’re strong is a problem. Strength and violence aren’t the same thing.”

To which he tried to back out by telling me the shocking story of a 130 lb girl leg pressing 700 lbs for reps. I simply said “Yeah that’s great. Women actually have a lot of strength potential.” And he said “Well women are smart I’ll give you that” to which I said “I’d hope so I have a PhD”.

He shut up after I mentioned that.

I’m lucky to be in areas I don’t face this as often as the women who are new to these spaces and don’t know how to respond to these gross and back handed comments.

Men — and women — anyone — is allowed to admire and be impressed with above average strength in women or anyone. That isn’t the issue here. You’re not a creep for complimenting someone for a good lift.

But the assumption that I — or any woman — is violent for being strong is repulsive. And is tied to deeply to this idea strength is only a trait of men — males must be violent too? God I hope not.

Men — I hope you also are vocal toward these males in these spaces for this behavior.

Women, trans or NB friends— I hope you know you can always stand firm in defending yourself in these situations. You don’t need to engage. You don’t need to be thankful for their “compliments”. You are not violent because you’re strong. You’re just strong.♥️

Men & people behind private profile’s: “I tota

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M.S., CISSN, PH.D. – EXERCISE PHYSIOLOGY

Alyssa is an Exercise Physiologist, sports nutritionist, weight lifter, and ultra runner. She is known for her high energy and sassy approach to bringing science to your training in a no-nonsense way. Alyssa has helped thousands of women crush big lifting goals, cross race finish lines, or even do both.

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This trend…. But make it academia ✨😂💁🏼‍♀️

Got my copy of @muscleandfitnesshers today in the

Got my copy of @muscleandfitnesshers today in the mail with my first ever full spread fitness article magazine publication.

As a young girl who grew up with stacks and stacks of beauty and fitness magazines in her room — this is beyond cool. Especially knowing that I wish I had seen someone like me, with this information, out there when I was growing up.

It’s always very powerful for me to see how many and how fast opportunists have come up the past few years. A slow burn by little by little I can see all the things a younger me as a teen, in college or even my masters/early PhD would have dreamed of being able to do.

When I see these things come to volition I can’t help but think of all those years I felt so much backlash from others for caring so much about sports, fitness, studying or my business. Always being busy and working toward something. Missing out on things. Saying no. Having to deeply believe in what I was working toward when no one saw it, doubted it, or it sounded like another persons “big goal” that fades with time.

It’s not just this single magazine write up, but how wild it is to be in this new chapter of my career and know the earlier pages all too well. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again — younger me is always my greatest inspiration. That girl had grit — and she is why I am where I am now.

Mostly what’s the most powerful for me with all of this is that I decided to grow my page, market my business and peruse academia on my terms. I didn’t force myself into the one size fits all industry model. I knew my message and vision and I stuck to it.

I’ve been on a mission the last 12 years and it’s not slowing down anytime soon my friends! 💪🏻

& as always — thank you all here for your support! ♥️

This picture was hard to come across again. While

This picture was hard to come across again. While going though old photo shoots for an image to use — I found this from a early last fall.

You can see — even through black and white photos — editing— and shading …. How rough I felt on the inside.

A wave of a difficult end to 2020 that turned into early 2021 burnout from a mix of the never ending changes to my pani-phd, growing a business, not knowing my future plans, having to prepare for every outcome — and tangible stress.

All those began to take a massive and negative toll on my internal health in 2020-2021. While I was working nearly 7 days a week, 4-5 am wakeups to rush into lab, updating my business systems & writing my dissertation my body said “enough”.

My stomach skin a disaster due to this, my hair a mix of over colored and depleted. I remember being in Zion with @bethanycorataylor in early 2021 saying “I don’t even feel ugly in the insecure way — I don’t know how to describe it. I don’t feel like myself. Like the life has been pulled out of my skin and face.”

It’s embarrassing to admit how much I let stress deteriorate my health while I was doing “everything else right”. This led me to making larger boundaries in my business, hiring out, redoing our back end systems and just getting out of my PhD with as much play and recover as I could.

Luckily, I had @insidetracker along the way. To let me know what was going on inside me at this time, a guide on how to adjust it, data to share with my doctor, the nudge to get help with my stomach, and a way to track progress over time.

Through testing not guessing and smart supplementation, professional help (hi @dr.adrian.chavez ), a lot of stress management work on my own, outsourcing & time — a year later I feel like a whole new me. My skin is glowing, my hair is growing, I am eating foods again I thought I never would, and my blood work is finding it’s way back to it’s normal.

@insidetracker has been vital to me during this time. Through today ultimate tests are $200 off with 35% off the entire website. Use my code DOCLYSSFITNESS. And yes, you can purchase now to save AND use later.

“Just go back to normal” — means nothing to

“Just go back to normal” — means nothing to those who don’t even have an established “normal” yet at least in the context of health / fitness. What if their normal isn’t somewhere they feel good, or great, or move or fuel themselves how they really want but can’t figure it out.

It’s okay if that’s you.

Change takes time.
The people who’s default normal seems impossible to you didn’t get there in a day.

It takes time — fumbling — falling backward — and ultimately moving forward because of all that to end up where your normal is something you love, crave, or can default to.

But you’re not broken, lazy or bad if these statements feel empty to you.

Being “off routine” even when you have one is hard. Let alone when your routine maybe isn’t one that you love right now.

Ask yourself instead “what are 1-3 things I know will leave me feeling really good next week”. And start there.

Some things to try:
• a big glass of water
• a early + long night sleep
• a big on salad
• a long walk
• some sweat pumping cardio
• a nap
• some solo time
• a coffee shop pause alone (me 🙋🏼‍♀️)
• a solid lift
• a long shower
• restocking grocers
• prepping a few meals
• some time with a good book
• an extra episode of that TV show
• a hike or getting outside in the sun
• a warm cup of tea

Whatever it is that’ll help you feel recovered + healthy + good — not guilty. And build back to a new normal … from there ♥️

Strong women aren’t inherently violent. This is

Strong women aren’t inherently violent. This is a sickening stigma that every woman who has the audacity to exist in this world with muscles and can load up a barbell has to face in commercial gyms.

I haven’t trained in commercial gyms for years. But I grew up facing the comments and side-handed views of middle aged men who have always taken space in these spaces who cannot comprehend the idea that a woman — in his space — is strong … without being violent at worst and at best an anomaly.

This man … before I even started my warm up set today asked me “if he could use the extra set of 45’s” because he “wanted to make sure I wasn’t going to beat him up for it”.

If I didn’t have an injury flare up I would have said yes and squatted 250 in front of his face.

I directly said back to him “You can use the 45’s but actually the idea that women are inherently violent because we’re strong is a problem. Strength and violence aren’t the same thing.”

To which he tried to back out by telling me the shocking story of a 130 lb girl leg pressing 700 lbs for reps. I simply said “Yeah that’s great. Women actually have a lot of strength potential.” And he said “Well women are smart I’ll give you that” to which I said “I’d hope so I have a PhD”.

He shut up after I mentioned that.

I’m lucky to be in areas I don’t face this as often as the women who are new to these spaces and don’t know how to respond to these gross and back handed comments.

Men — and women — anyone — is allowed to admire and be impressed with above average strength in women or anyone. That isn’t the issue here. You’re not a creep for complimenting someone for a good lift.

But the assumption that I — or any woman — is violent for being strong is repulsive. And is tied to deeply to this idea strength is only a trait of men — males must be violent too? God I hope not.

Men — I hope you also are vocal toward these males in these spaces for this behavior.

Women, trans or NB friends— I hope you know you can always stand firm in defending yourself in these situations. You don’t need to engage. You don’t need to be thankful for their “compliments”. You are not violent because you’re strong. You’re just strong.♥️

Men & people behind private profile’s: “I tota

This trend…. But make it academia ✨😂💁🏼‍♀️

Got my copy of @muscleandfitnesshers today in the

Got my copy of @muscleandfitnesshers today in the mail with my first ever full spread fitness article magazine publication.

As a young girl who grew up with stacks and stacks of beauty and fitness magazines in her room — this is beyond cool. Especially knowing that I wish I had seen someone like me, with this information, out there when I was growing up.

It’s always very powerful for me to see how many and how fast opportunists have come up the past few years. A slow burn by little by little I can see all the things a younger me as a teen, in college or even my masters/early PhD would have dreamed of being able to do.

When I see these things come to volition I can’t help but think of all those years I felt so much backlash from others for caring so much about sports, fitness, studying or my business. Always being busy and working toward something. Missing out on things. Saying no. Having to deeply believe in what I was working toward when no one saw it, doubted it, or it sounded like another persons “big goal” that fades with time.

It’s not just this single magazine write up, but how wild it is to be in this new chapter of my career and know the earlier pages all too well. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again — younger me is always my greatest inspiration. That girl had grit — and she is why I am where I am now.

Mostly what’s the most powerful for me with all of this is that I decided to grow my page, market my business and peruse academia on my terms. I didn’t force myself into the one size fits all industry model. I knew my message and vision and I stuck to it.

I’ve been on a mission the last 12 years and it’s not slowing down anytime soon my friends! 💪🏻

& as always — thank you all here for your support! ♥️

This picture was hard to come across again. While

This picture was hard to come across again. While going though old photo shoots for an image to use — I found this from a early last fall.

You can see — even through black and white photos — editing— and shading …. How rough I felt on the inside.

A wave of a difficult end to 2020 that turned into early 2021 burnout from a mix of the never ending changes to my pani-phd, growing a business, not knowing my future plans, having to prepare for every outcome — and tangible stress.

All those began to take a massive and negative toll on my internal health in 2020-2021. While I was working nearly 7 days a week, 4-5 am wakeups to rush into lab, updating my business systems & writing my dissertation my body said “enough”.

My stomach skin a disaster due to this, my hair a mix of over colored and depleted. I remember being in Zion with @bethanycorataylor in early 2021 saying “I don’t even feel ugly in the insecure way — I don’t know how to describe it. I don’t feel like myself. Like the life has been pulled out of my skin and face.”

It’s embarrassing to admit how much I let stress deteriorate my health while I was doing “everything else right”. This led me to making larger boundaries in my business, hiring out, redoing our back end systems and just getting out of my PhD with as much play and recover as I could.

Luckily, I had @insidetracker along the way. To let me know what was going on inside me at this time, a guide on how to adjust it, data to share with my doctor, the nudge to get help with my stomach, and a way to track progress over time.

Through testing not guessing and smart supplementation, professional help (hi @dr.adrian.chavez ), a lot of stress management work on my own, outsourcing & time — a year later I feel like a whole new me. My skin is glowing, my hair is growing, I am eating foods again I thought I never would, and my blood work is finding it’s way back to it’s normal.

@insidetracker has been vital to me during this time. Through today ultimate tests are $200 off with 35% off the entire website. Use my code DOCLYSSFITNESS. And yes, you can purchase now to save AND use later.

“Just go back to normal” — means nothing to

“Just go back to normal” — means nothing to those who don’t even have an established “normal” yet at least in the context of health / fitness. What if their normal isn’t somewhere they feel good, or great, or move or fuel themselves how they really want but can’t figure it out.

It’s okay if that’s you.

Change takes time.
The people who’s default normal seems impossible to you didn’t get there in a day.

It takes time — fumbling — falling backward — and ultimately moving forward because of all that to end up where your normal is something you love, crave, or can default to.

But you’re not broken, lazy or bad if these statements feel empty to you.

Being “off routine” even when you have one is hard. Let alone when your routine maybe isn’t one that you love right now.

Ask yourself instead “what are 1-3 things I know will leave me feeling really good next week”. And start there.

Some things to try:
• a big glass of water
• a early + long night sleep
• a big on salad
• a long walk
• some sweat pumping cardio
• a nap
• some solo time
• a coffee shop pause alone (me 🙋🏼‍♀️)
• a solid lift
• a long shower
• restocking grocers
• prepping a few meals
• some time with a good book
• an extra episode of that TV show
• a hike or getting outside in the sun
• a warm cup of tea

Whatever it is that’ll help you feel recovered + healthy + good — not guilty. And build back to a new normal … from there ♥️

Strong women aren’t inherently violent. This is

Strong women aren’t inherently violent. This is a sickening stigma that every woman who has the audacity to exist in this world with muscles and can load up a barbell has to face in commercial gyms.

I haven’t trained in commercial gyms for years. But I grew up facing the comments and side-handed views of middle aged men who have always taken space in these spaces who cannot comprehend the idea that a woman — in his space — is strong … without being violent at worst and at best an anomaly.

This man … before I even started my warm up set today asked me “if he could use the extra set of 45’s” because he “wanted to make sure I wasn’t going to beat him up for it”.

If I didn’t have an injury flare up I would have said yes and squatted 250 in front of his face.

I directly said back to him “You can use the 45’s but actually the idea that women are inherently violent because we’re strong is a problem. Strength and violence aren’t the same thing.”

To which he tried to back out by telling me the shocking story of a 130 lb girl leg pressing 700 lbs for reps. I simply said “Yeah that’s great. Women actually have a lot of strength potential.” And he said “Well women are smart I’ll give you that” to which I said “I’d hope so I have a PhD”.

He shut up after I mentioned that.

I’m lucky to be in areas I don’t face this as often as the women who are new to these spaces and don’t know how to respond to these gross and back handed comments.

Men — and women — anyone — is allowed to admire and be impressed with above average strength in women or anyone. That isn’t the issue here. You’re not a creep for complimenting someone for a good lift.

But the assumption that I — or any woman — is violent for being strong is repulsive. And is tied to deeply to this idea strength is only a trait of men — males must be violent too? God I hope not.

Men — I hope you also are vocal toward these males in these spaces for this behavior.

Women, trans or NB friends— I hope you know you can always stand firm in defending yourself in these situations. You don’t need to engage. You don’t need to be thankful for their “compliments”. You are not violent because you’re strong. You’re just strong.♥️

Men & people behind private profile’s: “I tota

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